Our Words Have Power to Create...to Bless or to Curse.
Ill Spoken Words Change the Course of a Persons Life
Forever in the Lives of Their Family & Friends.
It Causes Doubt & Mistrust on Both Sides
& Somehow has a Way of Coming Back
on Those Who Spread the Shame...
Fact: A Gossip Will Eventually Get Around to You...
SmileyMe.Org - The Anti-Gossip Website
Filled With Inspirational Stories, Bing Bing
Moments, No More Negatives, &
Encouragement to Speak
Kindly & Do the Right Thing...
Houmorous & Amazing True Stories!!!
What Exactly is Gossip?
- Why are We so Willing to Participate in it?
- Is Gossip Really so Bad?
- Is it Wrong to Enjoy a Little Gossip Now & Then?
- And What About Negative Words, Especially When I Know I'm Right?
That is What this Site is About...Gossip. It is My Goal to Separate the Lies from the Truth
About Gossip & What it Can do in the Best of Relationships, in the Happiest of Families.
Gossip Divides, Destroys, Shames, Angers & Separates Friends. It Never Fixes the Problem
but Only Destroys the Victims Reputation. Gossiping Will Never Straighten Your Neighbor Out,
Cause Your Sister to be a Better Housekeeper, or Heal a Broken Heart...In Fact it Will Cause
Just That. A Gossip has No Bounds & Actually Holds it Listeners Captive by Assuring them that
They Will be Next if You Double Cross Her.
If You Have Been Gossiped About, It is My Goal to Bring You Healing...to Bring You Peace &
to Help You Work Through it. You May not be Able to Stop Every Negative Word that Comes Your Way, but
You can Minimize it & the Damage so that it Does not Completely Destroy, You, Your Relationships
or Your Childrens Future.
I Have Often Thought that When we Die that We Really will be Judged for Every Mean or Negative Word
that We have Spoken in Secret Against Another. Just the Thought of This Should Bring Shutters &
Cause Even the Best of Us to Think Hard if We Have Said Anything Hurtful. Is it Possible
that Maybe the Person we Have Hurt Will Also Stand before the Lord as He Brings to Light
Our Thoughtless Words?
It is a Ssd Truth that People cannot Love You for Just You, that They are Easily Persuaded
to Believe Anything, & Enjoy Participating in the Story Line of a Good Bit of Gossip. So How are
We to Cope? How are We to Respond Without becoming a Part of it?
To Say that a Person Should Just Get Over being Shamed by a Gossip is a 2nd Offense Brought Against
the Victim. People Often Feel this Way & Usually Really Just Want the Whole Thing to Go
Away Especially if there has Been a Big Fuss. The Problem with this is that Usually the
Victim is Chastised for Feeling Angry, & Hurt by Surrounding Friends & Family while the Shamer
Gets Hardly a Mention that they Should have Been Nicer, a Mild Slap on the Wrist. What Others
Fail to Realize is that the Gossip Walks Away with an Level of Control Over the Rest of Those
Involved. Everyone Considers how they Act in this Persons Presence & Whether they will Admit
it or Not, Know that They Could be Next if they Step Out of Line.
I Sit Here Saddened as I think of Times When I have been Shamed before the Ones I Love &
Those who are Suppose to Know My Heart. Yes, I have Cried in Secret & Died inside to a Level
of Joy & Trust I Once Felt. Gossip has Affected Me & Changed Me Deep Within. It has Been
a Shadow in the Background of Every Visit & Conversation I've Since had With those who have
Heard My Condemnation. In a Way, it has Become My Reality.
Don't Ever think that Words are Non-important & Without Force. They are More Powerful then
Anyone can Imagine. The Things We Say Really do have Power to Bless or to Curse. When a Mother
or Father is Shamed, it Carry's Down to the Next Generation Because it Affects How she Raises Her
Children. Her Focus becomes Outwardly Divided Becuase She can No Longer Trust the Good Intentions
of Others. There is a Form of Trickery that Goes Along with the Kindness of Others as Often
People Who Offer a Hand of Help Now Find Themselves in an Authoritive Position to Judge.
If I Could Change One Thing in this world, it Would be this...
It is True that Some Things are Better Left Unsaid. That You really do Need to Walk a Mile
in Another Mans Shoes & that if You Haven't got anything Nice to Say...Don't Say Nothing at all.
God had Placed Us on this Earth to Learn a Few Things, Maybe to Show Some Compasion to Others
Less Fourtunate & Hopefully to Be a Blessing.
The Truth is that Negative Speaking Does Not Ever Solve the Problem. Even When the Gossip
is True, it Will be Recieved as Vicious & Mean Spirited. A Mother Who is Quietly Struggling does not
Need to be Told that She's Not Up to Par...She Already Knows. None of Us, Have it all Right. We
All Make Choices When raising Our Children, Staying With Our Husbands, or Whatever Your Cross
May be & from the Outside it can Not Always be Understood. Rarely are any of Us where we Thought
we'd be after 20 or More Years & We have All faced Hard Choices, Heartaches. & Bad Misfortunes.
If We Could Get Just One Thing Straight, in Our Minds & our Hearts, it should be that we Speak
Kindly. To Bless is the Greatest Gift, To Speak Positively into Our Lives & into the Lives of Others
is to Extoll Great Power.